The 4F Method©

What is the 4F© Method and Who is it For?

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What if you could finally free yourself from your traumas safely, quickly, and sustainably, without having to revive old suffering or revisit past wounds? What if it were possible to turn your past into strength, move beyond emotional reactivity, and restore your power? This is what I offer you with the 4F© Method, created by my psychotraumatology and psychopathology trainer, Ayla Misirli.

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Did you know that childhood traumas are the root cause of most adult mental suffering: addictions, compulsions, blockages, phobias, anxiety, depression, relationship issues? The list is long. Some painful patterns are simply passed down from one generation to the next until someone in the family line wakes up and decides to break the cycle.

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A trauma is a disruptive event that only becomes a trauma when the psyche is unable to process it and continue its normal development. In such cases, development is halted, and a part of you stays frozen in time: frozen at age 3 when your father forgot you at daycare, and you panic whenever someone is late since then; frozen at age 6 when a poodle bit your butt and you can’t approach a dog since then, and so on. The severity of the injury increases with repetition, the intensity of neglect or abuse, or even certain circumstances that were beyond the control of the adults in your childhood life, such as the economic situation of the country, certain cultural, political, or environmental factors.

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Thus, as adults, most of us find ourselves with reactions and behaviors that don't help us build a healthy, fulfilling life: like abused women who often fall back into relationships with violent men, or men seeking recognition who often end up with cold, controlling women, or students who put in enormous effort to prepare for exams and fail every time, or the child of an alcoholic mother who becomes an alcoholic as well.

But did you know that these patterns can be interrupted without spending years with a therapist or undergoing psychoanalysis? And did you know that to untangle these knots of emotions, thoughts, and destructive behaviors caused by trauma, it is key to follow a very specific order, a structured approach? T

 

his is where the 4F© Method comes in. First, it is practiced by psychotherapists, like myself and my colleagues, who understand the stages of child development and the associated needs, and who can also identify symptoms of mental and personality disorders studied in modern psychopathology. Repairing the psychic system is not a random, hit-or-miss process, not at all.

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Next, the human nervous system follows a hierarchy of automatic responses that must be respected in resolving trauma. If one step is not followed, the resolution is incomplete and the symptom persists. This is why we meet people who have seen therapists or coaches, opened life files with them, but never closed them, and emotional pain persists, even becoming stronger than before.

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The 4F© Method, however, goes all the way, and it has its own intelligence—an intelligence that not only changes negative thoughts and painful emotions associated with a trauma but also provides the part of you frozen in time with what it needed to grow. The result: the energy that was blocked is released, your beliefs about yourself and the world change to align with your new reality, and your behaviors and feelings change. It's like filters disappearing or a parking brake finally being released, and clarity settling in.

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So, who is the 4F© Method for? Simply anyone who wishes to:

• Heal childhood traumas safely, without reviving old suffering

• Deactivate emotional triggers that trap them in reactivity and helplessness

• Overcome addictions and self-destructive behaviors that drain their energy and ruin relationships

• Transform transgenerational burdens into resilience

• Rewrite their history under hypnosis to build a life on solid psychological foundations

• Restore personal power and the ability to overcome circumstances

• Reveal their unique essence and build a life that aligns with who they truly are

 

Why is the 4F© Method so effective?

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Have you tried everything to feel better, and yet you’re stagnating? You’re going around in circles with expensive healing modalities, coaches, workshops, and you feel like you never really address the core issue or build your life on solid psychological foundations? The 4F© Method, created by psychotherapist Ayla Misirli, changes the game.

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The 4F© Method combines tools from EMDR, Ericksonian hypnosis, and all the necessary psychological knowledge to resolve the emotional distress caused by childhood and adult traumas.

 

Why does it work so well?

Because it taps into the innate intelligence of your brain and nervous system to digest and integrate difficult events and turn them into strength. It unfreezes your blockages and enables you to move from helplessness to triumph. Now, triumph might sound like a big word... and it is! Triumph is the feeling of coming out victorious from a challenging circumstance—chosen or imposed—meaning with more strength, clarity, energy, choice, and love than before. This is also called resilience.

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Secondly, it works so well because it allows you to change your life story. Your current behavior is largely determined by your past experiences, or more precisely, by what your brain tells itself about your past story—the conclusions it has drawn about your abilities, your worth, what is possible or not for you, what you deserve, and so on. As a result, we all operate within a more or less limited field of possibilities, with repetitive choices and predictable defense mechanisms that almost always create the same results. Always the same types of partners, the same vacation budgets, the same career choices. The hamster on its wheel. But imagine if you could easily change what your brain tells itself about your past experiences, if you could even create new memories on which more constructive thoughts ("I can, I deserve, I am free, I can choose") would be built, with much more pleasant emotions, and thus much healthier behaviors. The most devastating experiences can be alchemized into fertile material for your happiness.

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Thirdly, the 4F© Method works so well because it also involves the body. It’s not just a mental or emotional experience, but also a physical one. Thanks to alternating tapping on the body that is maintained throughout the experience, the body is engaged, and we restore the connection between different parts of the brain that were no longer communicating—the very freezing of time and space that is the root of all trauma. We fluidize what was stuck, blocked. Then, by following the logic of the body and brain repair system, we reveal new pathways—like new thought and emotional trajectories that lead to new feelings and behaviors. New trajectories that always belonged to you but were until now dormant potential. This potential is now ready to manifest. In short, by going to the source, the 4F© Method creates deep, lasting transformations.

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Fourthly, the 4F© Method is applied by a team of therapists trained in psychopathology, psychotraumatology, and EMDR by Ayla Misirli. However, our trainer did not stop at imparting all the underlying psychology of these methods. She also trained us in the therapeutic application of a powerful personal development tool called the Enneagram. Much more than just a personality model, it helps decode deep motivations, fears, and recurring patterns. With this lens, we, the practitioners, can better understand why you react in a certain way to stress, what your fundamental needs are, and where your true resources lie. Combined with other tools, the Enneagram allows us to go even further in your self-exploration, facilitating powerful realizations and lasting changes.

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Discover Specialised Support from L'Étincelle de Juliette

If you need support with psychotrauma, addictions, hypersensitivity, or emotional dependency, I offer hypnotherapy and Human Design sessions tailored to your needs. Learn how my methods can help you overcome emotional traumas and release the blocks that are holding you back. For those struggling with addictions such as bulimia or anorexia (TCA), my hypnosis sessions will assist you in finding lasting balance. If you are particularly sensitive to emotions, explore my page dedicated to hypersensitivity to learn how to better manage your emotions and interactions. I offer consultations in Nice and the Côte d'Azur, as well as online consultations, to allow you to benefit from my services wherever you are. For more details, discover my holistic approach by browsing the Hypnotherapy section.

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Important Note: Hypnotherapy, the 4F© Method, and EMDR, even when practiced by a therapist, are not substitutes for medical care. Any medical conditions should be followed up with medical and/or therapeutic professionals. Additionally, I am not a psychiatrist. Therefore, I do not diagnose or provide medical treatments. No medication should be modified or discontinued without the advice of the medical personnel who prescribed it. However, I am trained in psychopathology and psychotraumatology, meaning I can detect symptoms of the most common mental and personality disorders. And most importantly, I am equipped, with the tools I practice, to help you resolve the emotional distress that causes these disorders.